8 Healthy Habits to Steal From Guys

We all know that women are the healthier sex. We see the doc more often. We live longer. So why would we care what good habits guys use to stay fit? Because research shows that men have an easier time losing weight and finding happiness than women do, thanks to key lifestyle differences. Read on for eight of his healthy habits that are worth adding to your health arsenal.


Good Habit #1: Eat a Real Meal
"Many women eat too little at breakfast and lunch," says Dawn Jackson Blatner, R.D., author of The Flexitarian Diet. "And without enough calories and the right combination of protein, carbs, and fat in a meal, your blood sugar levels fluctuate." That can leave you feeling hungry, which increases your chances of staging a mid-afternoon vending machine raid or overeating at night. 

Adopt His Healthy Habit: In the morning, swap your usual bowl of cornflakes for an egg-and-cheese sandwich (try this super-satisfying egg sandwich recipe) or oatmeal topped with nuts or fruit. Then, to stay full until dinner, bulk up your midday meal too. Front-loading your calories like this may feel like overeating, but research has found that it actually helps you take in fewer calories overall. 

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Good Habit #2: Be a Straight Shooter
Men yell at each other and no one cries. "It's socially acceptable for men to express anger, but we're taught it's not ladylike," says Sally Stabb, Ph.D., a psychologist at Texas Woman's University. That's especially bad because researchers at Boston University found that women who suppress their feelings, like anger, are four times more likely to die earlier from diseases like heart disease than those who speak up.

 Adopt His Healthy Habit: "Communicate with the person who made you angry," says Bree Maresca-Kramer, a mental health counselor in Palm City, Florida. "Say what you think, listen to the other person, and request a specific and concrete change." When something that makes you mad can't be tackled instantly, try sweating it out. "I often see men release their anger physically—say by running, lifting weights, or kickboxing," Maresca-Kramer says. Take a page from their playbook and power through a group cycling class next time you feel like blowing your top. Then revisit the issue with a fresh perspective. 


Good Habit #3: Grab a BeerOunce for ounce, regular beer has about half the calories (12 per ounce) of wine and liquor. "And because it's carbonated, people usually drink beer more slowly," says David Grotto, R.D., author of 101 Optimal Life Foods. What's more, beer is heart-healthy. "It contains cholesterol-lowering polyphenols," says Grotto.

Adopt His Healthy Habits: Next time you're perched on a bar stool, order a light brew—in a bottle. "That way, you know you're getting exactly 12 ounces," says Blatner. "With draft beer, wine, or mixed drinks, you never know how many calories you're consuming." And let your drink sit before you swig. People drink ice-cold beer faster than cool brews. 

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Good Habit #4: Get Off the BenchA Dutch study found that people who played soccer for two to three hours a week improved their bone density and heart health more than those who ran for the same amount of time, thanks to all the sprinting and kicking. "Plus, being on a team teaches communication skills that translate to all aspects of your life," says Bill Cole, founder and president of the International Mental Game Coaching Association.

Adopt His Healthy Habits: Rally your friends to form a team, or find a league near you by contacting your local YMCA or community recreation center. Network to find teammates at meetup.com.


Good Habit #5: Go Big or Go Home
Whether they're demanding a raise or scaling a mountain, men tend to push the envelope more than women do, says Frank Farley, Ph.D., a psychologist at Temple University. "When you force yourself to take chances, you strengthen your ability to handle change," says Farley. 

Adopt His Healthy Habits: Go ahead and book that scuba diving or mountain climbing vacation. If you want to scale Yosemite's Half Dome, for instance, begin by signing up for lessons on an indoor rock wall. Then schedule a tougher outdoor climb immediately afterward to flex your newfound skills—and confidence. 

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Good Habit #6: Be a Show-OffRecent research shows that while men are typically pleased with or indifferent to what they see in the mirror, eight out of 10 women are dissatisfied with their reflection. "If you don't like your body, it can rob you of confidence," says Amy Flowers, Ph.D., a psychologist in Macon, Georgia. "It also raises your risk for depression and anxiety." 

Adopt His Healthy Habits: Hit the gym. According to a recent study from the University of Florida, the act of exercising—even if you don't drop pounds—can change your perspective for the better. "It helps you be proud of what your body can accomplish," says study co-author Heather Hausenblas, Ph.D. "Plus, working out improves your mood, which trickles down to all the other aspects of your life, including your relationships." 


Good Habit #7: Leave it Alone"Men don't dwell on things like women do," says Maresca-Kramer. The difference may be, in part, biological: Women tend to rely on the right, or emotional, side of their brains, while men tend to be governed by their left, or analytical, sides. The problem is that obsessing about an issue for too long can lead to anxiety and depression. 

Adopt His Healthy Habits: Make a list. "Instead of focusing on how you feel, jot down a few actionable ways you can fix the problem," says Barbara Rubel, a stress and bereavement specialist in Kendall Park, New Jersey. "Having potential answers to your dilemma helps you gain control of a situation." This doesn't mean you shouldn't vent to your friends a little. Simply choose a confidante who you know will support you and encourage you to take action in a constructive way. 

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Good Habit #8: Show Yourself Some LoveAbout 60 percent of men masturbate regularly, compared to just 40 percent of women. If you aren't carving out a little "me" time, you may be missing out on some serious mental and physical benefits. "Orgasms release feel-good hormones, including endorphins and oxytocin," says Hilda Hutcherson, M.D., a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Columbia University. "That increases relaxation, improves sleep quality, and decreases anxiety." 

Adopt His Healthy Habits: Linger a little longer in bed in the morning, hit the hay earlier at night, or take an extra-long shower. Then, once you have some solo time, explore. "It may take a while to get comfortable with your body and figure out what works for you," says Hutcherson. The best part: All that practice helps you become more responsive during sex, which means you'll be enjoying more orgasms, more often. 

Building Women’s Writing Habit from Aceh to The World

Some famous writers may say that writing is easy. There is nothing wrong with these sayings. It may be easy because the writer is skilful and writing has become a habit in his life. But, what about those people who do not have enough knowledge and less access to media, such as women? The answer must be different. When we are discussing about the differences, there will some factors included in the factors. One of the factors is the gender inequality between man and women in accessing the media. More people say that women have less access to public media such as newspapers, magazines, etc. This limited access has caused very few women can write in the public media which are published in Indonesia to day. May be this statement is debatable. But, however the facts show that very few women to day can write in the public media, even the local media. Most spaces in the media written by men. Women have become a silence majority.

Factually, women as the major population in Aceh and also in Indonesia are potential resources and stakeholders in media. The reality is that the number of women in Aceh is bigger than men. More than 53 percents of the populations are women. Even they are big, they are voiceless or soundless, because they have been marginalized and ignored or tends to be neglected. The fact also shows that women face various and big problems in their life, but the problems just being hidden. Every thing seems left in the silence. It is a big problem that should be solved by women. Even, women also potential as the consumers of the media and also as the contributors in colouring media with women are writing. Unfortunately, most women do not utilize the spaces in the printed media because of some obstacles.

Building the bridge to public media

Knowing that women are the potential group and strategic in building writing habit, Centre for Community Development and Education (CCDE) Banda Aceh, is building a bridge for women to covey them to the public media by building writing habit among women. This big dream appeared based on the reality above. CCDE tries to break the silence and solves the problems of women by building women’s writing habit. Firstly designed in 2001 but it became reality in 2003, supported by WDP Germany. Here, the women were trained for three days with knowledge and skills in creative writing. The results of the training, more women can write creatively and it encouraged CCDE publishes a women magazine as the learning and advocacy media.

Then, one year after tsunami disaster, CCDE got financial support from Hivos to build the women’s writing habit. The grant was allocated for running serial of creative writing training, monthly discussions and publication. 100 women from 7 districts were trained during the program. After the training, women in field are involved actively in the monthly discussions for sharpening and encouraging women to write. So, the discussion forum is the medium for practicing women to communicate orally and written.

Some good progresses achieved and some changes happened. POTRET is published monthly and the number increases from 1000 to 2000 and this month increases to be 3000 copies. The lay out, number of pages, the colours, the size and also the contributors of the articles also increase every month. The distribution is also broader until to 12 districts in Aceh, and out of Aceh. POTRET to day is available at the bookstores. Women’s participation build POTRET sustainability is high now.

The happiest progress and challenges

Progress and challenges may come together. There are progresses and there are also challenges. Therefore, in building women’s writing habit, there are some challenges faced. At least there are four challenges that we face to implement this program. First, there are big demands of women to have more knowledge to have skills and writing and more people want to have training on writing. And this demand should be accommodated further. Second, the consequences of improving the quality and increasing the numbers of pages and copies require more funds. Third, since POTRET is also distributed to many organizations out of Banda Aceh, it spends more money for delivering costs. Fourth, In order to motivate women to write, we provide incentive the contribution but it is still very small, we need to increase until Rp. 100.000,- for one article.

There is a will, there is a way

It is common in every work we do we have progresses, challenges and even the problems. But, we believe with what the wise word says that, there is a will, there is a way. Therefore, so far we have done some strategic steps for overcoming those challenges and problems. Some of the ways are inviting organizations to promote their work and organizations in POTRET magazine. We invite readers to pay every copies of POTRE. We also invite organizations/individuals to subscribe the magazine for one year subscriptions and asking supports from those who may concern on this work. Shortly, we raise the fund in various ways for the sustainability of publishing POTRET now and in the future. This is one of the ways to build women’s writing habit.

From Aceh to the World

The great step has been made by POTRET in order to reach more readers, contributors in Indonesia and overseas. One of the steps made is building more collaboration with women’s groups who have the same concern in writing skills and in building writing habit for women’s groups in Indonesia and also the world. Now the readers and the contributors of POTRET magazine are not only women in Aceh but spread away in other provinces and worldwide.

As the media published in Aceh as local region in Indonesia, now POTRET belongs to more people from Aceh to the world. POTRET invites your contribution to keep it sustainable in the future, as the media of learning, campaign and promoting women’s rights. You can be as the contributors. Do it now.

Contact me : potret.ccde@gmail.com